Why Men Have Only One Thing on Their Minds



Milkweed by Thomas Whelan

Does it seem like your man is always thinking about sex?  That's because he is, we hear from Louann Brizendine, MD, a neuropsychiatrist and author of  The Male Brain .  It all comes down to the primal urge to win at the mating game by getting his DNA and genes into succeeding generations--and to do that, he must be victorious over other males and deposit his sperm in as many women as possible.  He's not consciously thinking this, of course, Dr. Brizendine said--but that is the biological basis for his one-track mind.

You can trace this trait to the testosterone a baby boy is swimming in before he is born, which "wires" his brain (assuming he is heterosexual) to be ready post puberty to pursue fertile females at every opportunity.  In fact, between the ages of nine and 15, a boy's testosterone increases 20-fold--and this is the "fuel" that will run his brain's sexual circuits henceforth.  What's more, Dr. Brizendine noted, part of a male's hypothalamus--called the "area for sexual pursuit"--is 2.5 times larger than a female's.

Bottom line:  If your man generally treats you with respect and makes you the object of his constant fantasies, there is no cause to feel overly objectified.  He is being human !

Source:  Louann Brizendine, MD, is a neuropsychiatrist and author of  The Male Brain
(Three Rivers) and The Female Brain ( Broadway).  She also is a professor of clinical psychiatry and founder and director of The Female Brain Clinic, both at the University of California, San Francisco.